For Family Members & Friends
- Listen carefully.
- Spend time with the traumatized person.
- Offer your assistance and a listening ear if (s)he has not asked for help.
- Reassure him that he is safe.
- Help him with everyday tasks like cleaning, cooking, caring for the family, minding children.
- Give him some private time.
- Don’t take his anger or other feelings personally.
- Don’t tell him that he is “lucky it wasn’t worse;” a traumatized person is not consoled by those statements. Instead, tell him that you are sorry such an event has occurred and you want to understand and assist him.
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Review Moving Forward After Trauma for insights about normal reactions and when professional help is needed. There is no time limit for recovery; do not expect he ‘should be over it by now.’